Redirecting Resistance And Refocusing Can Boost Your Self Esteem
Conversational Hypnosis is an art largely made up of the language you use.
As a hypnotist you must learn to bypass the critical factor using a set of Stealth Tactics in order to enter peoples minds.
Stealth Tactics are very helpful in the field of conversational hypnosis in this manner.
Once you learn how to use them you will be able to deal with your subjects in a way
that you have never experienced before.
Stealth Tactics are simply a way to do one of two things; get into the mind unnoticed by your listener
or complicate them to the point of allowed entry.
You really want to learn how to mask what you are doing in order to enter the mind
and leave your suggestions.
This takes a fine skill as it means you must bypass the critical
factor and defeat resistance.
While it is important to know how to sneak in bypassing all resistance.
Now you need to learn how to go beyond that. You must learn how to use resistance in a way
that is helpful to you as the hypnotist.
Believe it or not, resistance can actually help you to get where you need to be inside the
mind to carry out your purpose.
The Law of Reversed Effect is very useful tool however it can also create problems
in your hypnotic relationship. It can really bring out the worst relationship in a hypnotist
and subject when used too often or in the wrong way.
The problem with this tool is it puts your listener in a combative frame of mind.
It becomes a question of you versus them and can be damaging to the self esteem.
Lets face it no one likes to be controlled by someone else, it makes them feel weak and can
ultimately give a person a poor psychological frame to continue to grow from.
As people we feel we need to have control of our lives, if we dont we start to overcompensate
with feelings of low self esteem and destructive behaviors in our relationships and with ourselves.
The bottom line is the more a person feels out of control the more they
will fight to take that control back.
When they put this instinct into motion the Law of Reversed
Effect happens and they will fail causing more damage and hardship to the self esteem
There is a solution to this and it is not to abandon all you just learned about the Law of Reversed Effect!
The best way to combat this problem is to use the resistance you are stealing from them to
uplift the persons self esteem. The idea is to build on your rapport at the same time you are
sneaking your suggestions in.
Use your tools and skills to get the person to like you more, give them a feeling of control
back in their life.
The best way to do this is by redirecting resistance.
Redirecting resistance is very simple in the idea of it. It is to purposely give a person something
to resist that will fail.
This will give them the feeling of power back, they were not at the mercy of
all outside influence and they defeated some external suggestion making them in control of something.
A good example of this would be if you were a real estate agent and you have a client
that wants to buy a house. He has found the house he wants but is still having some second thoughts,
he hasnt quite signed on the dotted line just yet.
As a fantastic real estate agent you give him many options to consider when purchasing a house,
one of which being a variety of upgrades.
After hearing about the upgrades, new kitchen tile, fireplace so on and so forth.
Next thing you know he decides on no upgrades but he buys the house.
Now here you have redirected the resistance. You have given your client something to resist other than
the suggestion you initially wanted to take place. Your desired outcome was for the man to buy the house.
As he was having resistance to that you gave him the upgrades to resist. It really doesnt matter to you if
he upgrades his fireplace just that he buys the house.
The beautiful thing here is you both win. The person resisting feels as if they have regained control
of their life again and you get to slip in the suggestion with little to no resistance.
Redirecting resistance is solely about finding the things people will be able to resist
instead of your original purpose.
As the conscious mind focuses on the idea of resisting your new idea the old one
goes in unnoticed and usually becomes valid.
When you do this, you can do this as well. By accepting the invitation to resist the second part of the
statement you are automatically making the first part true.
There are thousands of ways to use this principal, and it will be combined with all the other
principals you are learning in order to create a whole.
As a Stealth Tactic redirecting resistance is very powerful and will be an awesome
skill to store in your toolbox, especially when it is combined with other stealth tactics.
The next Stealth Tactic that we will cover here is that of refocusing attention.
The concept here is to make a suggestion and implant it and then refocus their attention elsewhere.
This principal is similar to seeding ideas but creates a more powerful effect.
In refocusing attention you will plant the seed in their mind then before it is
noticed you will focus attention on something other than resisting the original idea.
The power in this tactic is that the original idea will go unnoticed and start to grow as
you focus the person elsewhere.
The key is to refocus the attention before the critical factor
gets a hold of it and starts to criticize it.
When you put this skill into action you will drop in the suggestion and
refocus the attention repeatedly.
Suggest, refocus, suggest original idea, refocus and so on and so forth.
If there is no conscious information coming from them then the suggestion will have the
time it needs to grow within without time for resistance.
Eventually it will appear to them as their own idea and people tend to
agree with ideas they think are their own.
An example of how this works is if you were having a conversation with a friend and
they suggest an idea or make a statement in passing.
The statement is only a small part of a much larger conversation but it is still there.
Then maybe 5 months down the road you are having a similar conversation and you state the idea as your own.
You may not even know the idea came from your friend because you were not focused on the
statement itself you were focused on the entire conversation that was taking place.
You see here how this one layer effect of refocusing attention can be powerful and
has probably happened to you at one time or another.
Now think about the same idea but in layers of five, six or seven layers of different topics,
much, much more powerful. This idea of layering creates an overload of information to the
point of lack in ability to keep and focus on the original idea.
There are ways of distracting attention that will make this tactic even easier.
The first way to do this is to simply change the topic, a new set of information to focus on.
You can also confuse them. This will focus them on trying to decipher what you have said and again
focus will be distracted.
Another way to distract attention is to overload the person with details and facts.
An overload of information will cause their conscious to focus on finding a place for all the details
you are giving them, when really these details are probably unimportant.
Now it is very important to remember to use repetition in this process. On the other hand, it is also equally important not to come back to the idea so often that they figure out on a conscious level what you are up to.
There are degrees with which you must alter your repetitions. If you are working with a very sharp
minded individual you will need to repeat less and mask your suggestion more.
The opposite happens for the simpler minded; you will need more repetitions
and can make your suggestion in more blatant statements.
