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SELENA Gomez admits she was starstruck when she met Nicole Kidman.

The Wizards of Waverly Place star is set to work with Kidman
on the upcoming comedy Monte Carlo.

Selena says Nicole scheduled a meeting for the two to get to know each
other prior to hitting the movie set.

“Nicole is the coolest person ever, and very sweet,”

Gomez told In Touch Weekly magazine. “So I was very happy!”

Nicole isn’t the only A-lister to make Selena nervous.

The teen queen recently revealed how she was lost for words after meeting Shakira
when the singer made an appearance on her TV show.

“The Shakira episode was so much fun,” Gomez told said last month.

“I’m not sure I can reveal too much. I just know that she had a very big part in it and
I was just starstruck the entire time.

“I also felt like I needed to work out after I was next to her because she’s gorgeous.

She was really nice and she was really funny.

“So the role was her playing herself, obviously, and I got to sing a song with her as well.”

Self-esteem, by literal definition, is a term which describes how one perceives themselves;
often reflecting on self-worth or other form of self-measurement.

Self-esteem is, just as it suggests, strictly about one’s own view of themselves;
possibly from a variety of angles and philosophical or other fundamental viewpoints;
but always about themselves.

Self-esteem is often variable, and might be affected by outside forces like ridicule,
or praise, or insult, or accolade, or reward, or punishment,
or a variety of other similar phenomena.

All human beings (except perhaps those with severe mental disorders) establish and manage
their own self-esteem; albeit such views are not always shared by others.

Some studies show that some who practice violent behavior often have too-high self-esteem; that is,
they think more of themselves than is warranted, and perhaps feel superior to others.

Other data suggests that violent persons suffer from too-low self-esteem; which might motivate them to
inflict control and even pain on others, in an attempt to build themselves up.

Self-esteem plays an important role in peoples’ lives, since it is so highly instrumental
in effecting behaviors, attitudes, opinions, and other actions or reactions of individuals.

There can be serious consequences associated with attacking someone’s self-esteem,
especially without cause or justification; and sometimes individuals respond to such
attacks with unwelcome behaviors.

Gloria Steinem is turning 76 and she’s upset that women still haven’t achieved equality.

One place we women could use equality is in the world of marketing, which seems hell-bent on
convincing us we are so shallow that our self-esteem is instantly jeopardized by pictures of models.

I am not talking about women suffering from eating disorders because of serious emotional problems.

I’m talking about ordinary women. What would equality look like here? Well, marketing researchers
would stop telling us ordinary women that our self-esteem hangs by a thread —
if we’re thin and view photos of thin models, we feel great because we identify with them and feel smaller than heavier models; if we’re hefty, we suffer damage to our self-esteem no matter which models we look at.

Dutch researchers reached these weighty conclusions after showing volunteers photos of models
of various sizes and proportions, and testing their self-esteem “in unconscious ways,” whatever that means.

According to Dirk Smeesters, a professor of marketing at Erasmus University,

“If [the heavier women] are exposed to heavy models, they think they’re heavy because that’s the way they look.
But if they’re exposed to a thin woman, they don’t look like that,
so this means they also think they’re heavy.”

I’ve got news for you, Dirk. Heavier women already know they’re heavy because their scales tell them so,
as do their clothing sizes and their mirrors.

My self-esteem is based on something more substantial than the images I see while flipping
through glossy magazines. I know those photos are airbrushed so that what women are being fed
is pretty much illusory anyway.

We women know that the realm of supermodels is so far removed from our own daily lives as
to be in the stratosphere. That’s why we rarely ever think about it, if at all.

We probably think about it as much as we ponder the orbit of the planet Neptune — my apologies, by the way,
to any women astronomers who may very well be thinking quite seriously about Neptune’s orbit.

I saw a photo not long ago of some women who were far more beautiful than any of the airbrushed
babes with pouty lips and long, skinny legs who can be found in the pages of a magazine.

They were nuns from a convent in Washington state, all of them in late middle age,
none wearing any makeup, a couple with some serious problems with zits,
most falling into the category weight-wise that could be labelled frumpy or matronly.

Their clothing would never be considered the latest fashion.

But what made them beautiful was the character in their faces and the light in their
eyes that reflected the solid sense of self-esteem arising from a life spent accomplishing things
in the real world, helping others, making a difference in people’s lives in low-key, everyday ways.

“After exposure to any model, self-esteem of the low [body mass index] people increases but
the self-esteem of high BMI people decreases,” Smeesters said of his study.

My women friends and I don’t think about models.

If you asked us for the names of any of the current crop of top models,
we’d draw a blank. We don’t talk about skinny models, fat models or any other type of models.

Our self-esteem does not rest on whether some doe-eyed chick with her hair blowing in an artificial breeze,
dressed in ridiculously expensive clothes, and posing with some fake backdrop meant to
suggest an exotic destination, is thin, fat or anything in between. We don’t care.

We’re also smart enough to know that nobody is perfect. Those of us who are over 40
are probably battling some form of middle age bulge.

We know we’ll have bad hair days, bad complexion days, and not-enough-sleep/way-too-much-stress days.
And to all that, we say: So what? That’s just life happening.

And the great thing about being over 40 is you finally reach a place where you accept yourself
just as you are. Isn’t that the real battle women have been fighting all these years —
the battle to be true to themselves? When will we get to declare victory?

Certainly not while marketing researchers conclude that our self-worth is so tenuous it rests on a
momentary glance at a magazine ad.

And, by the way, Neptune takes 164.79 years to orbit the sun, so on July 12, 2011,
it will finish its first orbit since it was discovered in 1846.

Hopefully, it won’t take 164.79 more years before the average woman
achieves equality and is treated like the intelligent person she is.

Naomi Lakritz is a columnist for the Calgary Herald

Read more:

http://www.timescolonist.com/health/Here+Earth+ignore+those+supermodels/2715329/
story.html#ixzz0j0CLat3U

I recently came across this article by Kate Devlin.

I look forward to reading your comments.

“Being needed by young children can increase their feelings of self-worth, researchers believe.

They found that having children can cut the chances that a woman will commit suicide.

Part of the reason could be an increased sense of happiness and self-esteem that
women feel after giving birth, according to researchers.

Mothers often have more supportive social networks than women who do not have children, they add.

The research team set out to study the theory that parenthood protects against suicide.

First suggested by renowned sociologist Emile Durkheim in 1897, studies have found the
theory difficult to prove because of the relatively low number of people who take their own lives.

In one of the largest studies of its kind, researchers looked at data involving 1,292,462
women over 20 years.

Their findings show that motherhood does indeed have a protective effect.

And that effect increases the number of children that a women has, according to the study,
published in the CMAJ, the Canadian Medical Association Journal.

Women had two children were 39 per cent less likely to take their own lives than
women who had just one.

And that figure rose to 60 per cent among women who had three children.

“A clear tendency was found toward decreasing suicide rates with increasing number of
children after controlling for age at first birth, marital status, years of schooling,
and place of delivery,

” said Dr Chun-Yuh Yang, from Kaoshiung Medical University in Taiwan, who led the study.

“Given that the women included in this study were young (the large majority of
suicide-related deaths occurred before premenopausal age) and were among the youngest reported
for any country, this finding is particularly noteworthy.”

He added: “The presence of young children may increase the mother’s feelings of self-worth,
possibly based on her perception of being needed.”

Much out of date said about the \”gifted child\” but de facto whole child is born with total inherent.

As expressed extremely flourishing by Orison Marden:

\”Deep within man dwell these slumbering powers; powers that would astonish him,
that he nevermore dreamed of possessing; forces that would revolutionize his life
if aroused and put into action.\”

This statement can be legal for your child. Not reliable if he\’s a \”gifted child\” but any child.

Indeed, perhaps we should consider a \”gifted child\” almost on one a child whose parents have
gifted him with a colossal self-esteem.

Children with colossal self-esteem are happier and at top of ladder.

Low self-esteem is workaday in children who are performing badly at school,
have behavioural problems and suffer from depression.

The Newborn

The \”helpless\” newborn baby actually comes into the world fully furnished with the power
to get what she wants. Not only do her cries bring her parents running to tend to her;
she likewise uses her body and anterior language to get what she wants.

It\’s no coincidence that babies learn to smile while they are silent model limited -
it is an requisite tool in their armoury of communication.

A baby with a disarming smile can frequently wrap mommy or daddy round her inappreciable finger!

At that early stage, it\’s considerable to respond to total your baby attempts at communication.

Attend to her when she cries (this does not preclude training her gently into a reliable routine),
mirror her attempts at anterior communication and reward the infant sounds she makes by praising
her and talking back to her.

The \”Can-Do\” Toddler

Toddlers are into everything! They are learning extremely dashing about the world around them
and want to explore everything, touch everything and undeviating try to eat manifold things.

It is such a showdown stage and one that is stifled by manifold parents. Yes, you need to control your child\’s behavior extremely that he doesn\’t damaged himself or damage estimable property.

But you likewise need to give him opportunities to clear-cut that initiatory behavior
without perpetual criticism and telling-offs.

Put valuables expired of reach and supply your child with toys or ordinary items that he can
play with safely. Try to find time to get down on the floor and play with your toddler.

Let him watch you and imitate you. He could play on the kitchen floor with any pots and
plant spoons while you are cooking.

Discipline

I want to emphasize in advance that I believe discipline is model considerable, because I don\’t
want you to think in any of what follows that I\’m advocating spoiling your child.

Some parents call that \”allowing the child to enjoy the freedom of youth.\

” These parents are entitled, by all means, to raise their children howbeit they wish.

But if you want your child to grow into a flourishing grown adult,
you would do greater by teaching her firmly what is and isn\’t acceptable in with it society.

And, reliable as importantly, helping her to learn self-discipline and that you will
support her in achieving anything she wants, as stringy as she does extremely ethically.

Discipline should be sentient, polite and well-timed.

You should strive to nevermore lose your temper but to discipline your child calmly and firmly.

When is discipline well-timed? When your child\’s actions (or lack of them) may harm herself or others.

When is discipline not well-timed? When it is purely for the parent\’s peculiar egotistic preferences.

Talk to Your Child

Positive talk with your child and generally within the ordinary cannot be over-emphasized.

Avoid criticism wherever possible; it is praise that produces good, flourishing behavior.

Be valid to find not fully one thing to praise in your child every day.

Even greater, give praise as oftentimes as pushover.

Are you having problems finding good behaviors to praise?

If extremely, give your child a task to do that you know he is up to.

Children love earning their parents\’ approval. Also remember to praise your child for trying,
on these occasions that he is not flourishing.

Set a good example; talk about your goals and successes, and teach your child by example to
accept compliments gracefully.

Resist the temptation to put yourself down when you are complimented -
alternately, say a walkover Thank You.

That\’s an considerable sign of a flourishing self-esteem.

The other side of the coin to talking is, by all means, listening.

It is model considerable to listen to your child. When expert is something he
is agitated about, don\’t sweep it under the carpet by saying \”Don\’t be frivolous!\

” Whatever it is might seem totally evanescent to you but oftentimes total your child needs is
for you to empathise. \”I\’m softened you feel melancholy about that.\

” He may suddenly come up with a solution, or put the incident behind him without further help.

Or, you can suggest a solution.

The Power of Desire

You can give your child the best pushover schooling, teach total the considerable techniques
of success, encourage goal setting and stated a peculiar example. But that is found wanting!

All these good things have one life or death pre-requisite.

Before you can achieve anything, you must know what you really, really want.

A burning desire is the first, of substance and requisite step towards any greater achievement.

As a parent, you are in a solitary position to influence another person\’s desires - your child\’s.

By the time they reach their teens, you will have lost that influence to a valid degree,
as girlish adults are swayed extravagant ancient history their peers\’ opinions than their parents\’.

So make the manifold of the early years by instilling clear-cut, favoring desires in your children.

The desire to do flourishing academically could shape your child\’s further education and
career extravagant added to her congenital ability.

How can you instil desire? Telling stories is a colossal way. Children love stories!

Be visionary and tell stories where the hero or heroine has a burning desire for something,
overcomes challenges and stated backs, and achieves the desired outcome.

Try telling stories where a child achieves scholarly success, which one after another results
in something undeviating charming.

For instance, one story could tell of a child who has a burning desire to travel to the North Pole.

She succeeds academically and hence wins an award, which makes her dream come legal.

Tailor the stories to your peculiar child\’s life and experiences all but you can.

The applauded author Napoleon Hill used story-telling to instil in his almost-deaf son both a
burning desire to hear, and a fine-grained belief that his disability would actually bestow
upon him a colossal advantage (although at the time undeviating his father had no idea what that
advantage could be).

By the time that boy left college, he had against the odds acquired a hearing aid that enabled
him to hear clearly for the first time in his life.

More plenty, he had justified his father\’s belief by securing a marketing position with
the hearing aid manufacturer to bring the tantamount benefit to millions of further deafened people.

Hi Friends,

What are your views about this article?

Researchers from Japan’s Osaka University of Commerce as well as a University of Texas Austin
campus had carried out a consult which 78 operative couples have been investigated as well
as all a couple’s young kids were 8 months old.

The researchers asked respondents to weigh a opening of kid caring from a romantic input,
earthy inputs as well as either they take their responsibilities.

The formula showed which upon child-rearing abilities, women got a magnitude of twenty-four points
from group whilst a women give usually twenty-one points to men.

Interestingly, notwithstanding a group got reduce score, though women mostly exaggerate
which a child’s father is excellent.

According to researchers’ argument, women design their husbands to assistance caring for their children.

The reason of being since low scores is, in their view, which a approach of seeking
after a young kids by their husbands is not a same as them. What’s worse, their husbands mostly
supplement a little troubles.

Spouses’ capability evaluated by masculine as well as womanlike is opposite from time to time.

If father looks after a young kids similar to his mother by feeding,
becoming different diapers as well as coaxing a child, his mother mostly pronounced
which her father is a great parent.

” Researchers said:” On a contrary, when a mother to do these things,
a father might take it for granted.

” Survey formula showed which a little women hold which their self-respect would be harm
if their husbands work as well tough upon receiving caring of their children.

The consult was written to magnitude a dual ways of respondents’ self-esteem,
which have been self-satisfaction as well as clarity of competence.

The formula showed which if women hold which their spouses have a capability to take caring
of their children, a longer group as well as young kids live alone,
a reduce magnitude of clarity of cunning for women.

If women hold which a associate is diseased to take caring of their children,
there is no outcome upon a length of time group as well as young kids live along as well as women’s clarity of competence.

Why a undiluted father would have women’s reduce clarity of competence?

Researchers hold which women right away face a vigour of unchanging with village standards.

In a society, a recognition of gender equivalence is still flourishing as well as women have been
speedy to experience in work, though people still hold which women should fool around a vital purpose
in the upbringing of their children.

Hi Friends,

I will love to read your comments about this article.

“Before I reveal what might be a significant revelation to you in just a moment,
give a thought to your own self-esteem. How do you feel about yourself?

Now, one more question for you.

How well organized are you?

Notice that if you feel quite well organized then you probably feel quite good about yourself,
i.e. your self-esteem is probably high.

Listen carefully: Whenever you feel a low self-esteem, you can probably bet that high up on the list
of reasons why, is that you are not well organized in your life.

As you think about how many people spend time, effort, and money on so called
‘personal development’ for improving self-esteem, guess at how many actually work on
learning how to get organized. I mean REALLY organized?

Answer: Not many!

Important point: Consider that normal personal development revolves essentially around the topic
of self-esteem, and spends very little time on how to get organized.

The results?

Low self-esteem DESPITE doing so called ‘personal development’.

In fact, if you are reading personal development books, listening to audio programs or attending
seminars on personal development and self-esteem, then chances are you’re caught in a loop.

Almost a vicious circle.

You do some personal development, and you feel better, and you get on with life,
but the disorganization of your life catches up with you and so you go back to doing
a bunch of personal development.

But think of this…

How often do you learn about, or how much time do you invest in… drum roll… Getting Organized??

Now here’s the thing: I discovered in my coaching that self-esteem and personal organization
are the essential sides of the same coin. The coin that opens those gateways to all success.

Do you want to feel better about your self, your life, the way things are? Do you want to be more competent?
And after reading this article, Do you want to get organized more than you have been?

If you neglect either side of that coin, you will never achieve those results, never!

You can focus on either of those sides separately, but ultimately organization depends on self-esteem,
and vice versa, self-esteem depends on getting organized in your career development and personal life.

Technically said: The degree of your organization is commensurate to the degree of your self-esteem.

And for the ‘metaphysically inclined’: If you see yourself as getting organized, the positive expectation will lead you to get organized.

How can you actually apply both sides of this coin in how to get organized and improve your self-esteem?

Here is the key point I want you to understand in this short article:

By emotionally getting involved with taking more control of your personal areas at work and
home you will begin feeling proud of your environment, and ever-more capable of getting organized.

Focusing intellectually on how to get organized, and emotionally super-charging that effort
for all the positive emotions that come from being organized, will boost your self-esteem.

And that provides ever more fuel to get organized even more.

(French Accent) Now ‘zis’ iz Personal Development, no?

As that idea grows for you over the next few days you will understand that the times
you feel genuinely and deeply good about yourself happens because you are recognizing an area
of good organization. That should be a major theme of what Personal Development is all about.

Self-esteem and Getting Organized create a self-supporting positive feedback mechanism.

The more you improve on one of them, the more the other will improve.

Your two pronged attack is to work on both, be mindful of both, understand how they both inter-relate,
and ultimately combine as 2 sides of the same coin.

The coin that affords your every desire, and inevitably brings you all that you deserve.

Hi Friends,

There are millions of people in te world today battling with self esteem issues.

Have you felt ugly,undeserving of love or attention?

Have you ever wondered why you felt no one finds you attractive?

The root cause of it all is a low self esteem.

Below is a short extract from an article i read recently.

Growing up in New York City was a challenge for me. For much of my life, I struggled with my image.

I was short, slightly overweight and in my opinion not very attractive.

All throughout elementary and high school, I was the butt of jokes, consistently being bullied
around by my peers. High school was the hardest time for me, as this is when individuals begin to
become comfortable in their own skin.

The verbal and sometimes physical abuse that I underwent through those years definitely
hurt my self esteem and confidence. At the time, I was ‘straight’ and had an extremely difficult
time approaching girls on a romantic level. Yes, I had many ‘girl friends’, but they stayed just friends.

Like many others, I feared rejection. But I was also waging a subconscious battle with my sexuality.

As a result of my relationships with women at that time, I also refrained from sexual activity.
Partially because my self esteem was so low I didn’t think anyone would want to have sex with me.

I spent much of my college years studying at home and used the excuse of getting good grades
as a reason for my lack of social activity.

It was not until I relocated to Orlando for graduate school, yes, at 22 years old,
that I began to feel happy with myself and who I was becoming.

Maybe it was the Disney magic or maybe I was starting to realize I was gay.

Although I didn’t act on my gay urges until later, my confidence was increasing as more and more
people were finding me attractive, both men and women.

I was always a very friendly person, but now I added confident to the mix.

One night, my friend Tara, having inclinations of my sexuality brought me Firestone,
which at that time hosted Orlando’s hottest gay night.

Not knowing about Firestone, I went expecting a typical club.

As I entered, the sounds of Michael Jackson, Cher and *NSYNC blared through the speakers.

There were shirtless boys dancing on boxes, others serving shots.

Never having experienced this before, it took me about 10 minutes to realize where I was.

I was intimidated and quite scared to be honest. But the next evening after my fears subsided,
I wanted to go back for more.

I liked the attention. For the first time in my life, people were approaching me and asking me for my number.

It felt great. Okay, so I was a lot hotter than I was in high school,
but being comfortable in my own body probably had something to do with it.

But I have a confession to make. I have developed an addiction. I am not addicted to something tangible.

I am addicted to being admired. That may sound crazy, but I think I’m trying to make up for lost time.

Maybe it’s an illness or maybe it’s a result of the issues I faced when I was younger.

Psychologists please insert opinion here…

I’m not sure how long the urge for admiration or my attraction will last,
but I want to cherish every moment.

I just hope that my cravings and addictions don’t affect others.

I hope that when my attraction fades, my confidence remains.

I hope I don’t have to feel the way I felt in
high school again.

I recently came across this article and found it quite interesting.

I would love to hear read your comments about this article.

I think I finally figured out why they do stuff like this.

The State Board of Education tentatively approved new standards for social studies
Friday with members divided along party lines — some blasting them as a fraud and conservative whitewash,
others praising them as a tribute to the Founding Fathers that rightly portrays America
as an exceptional country.

The standards, which will influence history and government textbooks arriving in public
schools in fall 2011, were adopted by 10 Republicans against five Democrats after weeks of debate
and across a racial and ideological chasm that seemed to grow wider as the proposal was finalized Thursday.

Many of us are secure enough in our belief about the true nature of America that we want our children
to be taught the basic facts about its history on the assumption that in the end they’ll realize
for themselves that they live in a pretty good place.

Other people, like certain members of the State Board of Education, seem to think that unless children
are given only a carefully edited set of “facts” about America, they won’t grow up to be
as intolerant of dissent about things like America’s greatness as they themselves are.

Once I realized this was a matter of self-esteem, it all made sense to me.

Perhaps if we spiked their water pitchers with Prozac for their next meeting, things will go better.

It’s worth a shot, anyway. Steve Schafersman, The Texas Trib, TFN, Steve Benen, and Hair Balls have more.