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Here are some symptoms of low self-esteem in teenagers:

• sleeping all the time, lack of energy and motivation

• sudden drop in grades or interest in academics

• neglecting their personal appearance

• slurred speech

• skipping meals or binge eating, leading to sudden weight loss or weight gain

Low self-esteem is unfortunately pretty common in teenagers. There are a lot of physical, emotional and
mental changes and sometimes it is overwhelming.

Changes in their bodies and their own inability to control their emotions can make a teen feel
confused and scared.

The urge to fit in with their peers is very strong, and any perceived rejection by friends or
classmates could lead to low self-esteem.

So, what’s the solution?

Different activities like sport, workshops can help them to get focused and pay attention to something else rather than their “problems”.

They have to do something they enjoy doing. If they like painting encourage them to paint, if they actively involved in any kind of sport activity support them to be better at it. They have so much energy,
they just have to guide it into the right direction.

Low self-esteem in teenagers is not a disease. It’s just their response to the overwhelming tasks, o
bligations and their willingness to fit in to the group or team.

Team building activities for teens that are less competitive are a way to encourage personal growth
and social skills in a safe and non-judgmental setting. This is a good practice not only for shy teens or those
with low self-esteem,but for overly confident and overbearing teens who can benefit from an atmosphere where
the focus is on cooperation and team building.

Ask a dozen artists what their creations mean to them and you’d probably get a dozen different answers.

But to a group of Boulder women who paint and draw together for a few hours each week,
their creations are motivated by one common bond: their art is an escape from homelessness.

On any given Wednesday, the Carriage House Community Table, which provides daytime shelter and food
for the city’s homeless community, provides two hours of artistic instruction to women.

The work is part emotional outlet and part self-esteem building.

“Sometimes, it’s difficult for people to express themselves verbally,” said Joy Eckstine, executive director of the Carriage House. “This is an outlet for people. When people are feeling so down about themselves, I think it can help them start rebuilding some of their self confidence.”

About three years ago, Eckstine noticed the propensity for art that so many of the people using the shelter had.

Some of her clients left art as thanks for a hand up, while others simply displayed a natural knack for creativity.
So Eckstine partnered with Susan Stephens, a Boulder artist who has since volunteered her time at the shelter.

“Sometimes,” Stephens said, “you find an extraordinary talent” in someone.

Stephens provides cost-effective materials, like water colors, charcoal and pencils. While she’s a professional artist, she doesn’t ask the women who participate to take on any one style or

Brooke Blinebry, who used to live on the streets and now has a home in Nederland, draws with chalk during art class at the Boulder Carriage House. Art provides an outlet for expression and emotion, while helping build the homeless women s self esteem. ( CLIFF GRASSMICK )technique.

“I get them comfortable with the medium,” she said.

She provides artistic direction only when asked, or sketches out designs for those who are
“reluctant to attack a plain paper.”

The work is also about self expression, releasing emotions and creating a sense of accomplishment and escape for the women — any of whom don’t know where they’ll sleep later that night.

One picture hanging on the walls of the shelter, a self portrait of the artist, features a woman’s face with a single red tear creeping down her cheek.

“She’s expressing her past abuse in art,” Stephens said of the artist. “It’s a way to bring (feelings) out without having to do therapy.”

The group attracts women with an array of backgrounds. Some are what the city would classify as being temporarily homeless, while others have been on the streets for years and are considered chronically homeless.

At age 57, Terri Sternberg has been without a place to live for just more than a year. A classical violinist by trade, she lost her job and then her home in Longmont. She’s since become an activist for the homeless and
taken to the art classes like a fish to water.

“My father was an artist,” she said. “I remember being 3 years old and sitting next to him looking through art books.”

Now, she said she finds comfort and release retracing those roots.

She’s especially taken to electronic art, creating dozens of computer-assisted paintings using programs

These are some of the works created by homeless women as part of an art program offered at the
Boulder Carriage House. For the second year, the women s art will be on display and for sale druing a special exhibition at the Boulder Arts & Crafts Gallery, opening next month.

( CLIFF GRASSMICK )at the Carriage House and the Boulder Public Library.

Thumbing through a stack of her pictures, Sternberg stopped on one image that showed a house.

“Not having a house, I guess this is a good way of pretending this could be my room,” she said.

She said that when she was losing her home, she’d often end her days grappling with strong emotions
of sadness or anger. Art, she said, has helped temper the pain.

“It’s a big outlet,” she said. “If they had more stuff like this in jails or prisons,
it would be healing for people.”

Brooke Blinebry, 28, of Nederland, was homeless last summer for a brief time. She came to the Carriage House
looking for help. She got it and is now back on her feet and living in a Nederland cabin.

She found a talent making jewelry at the Carriage House art sessions.

“I think it’s hugely important for people to express themselves and find hope and joy,
no matter what’s around them,” she said.

Blinebry said the homeless are some of the most creative people around.

“I see people who do art with cardboard boxes,” she said.

Officials at the shelter say Blinebry is a success story., and they’ve asked her to help lead the art
sessions some weeks.

“I’m going to ask people to be as creative as they can,” she said.

In March, the shelter will take the art a step further, displaying and selling dozens of pieces at the
Boulder Arts & Crafts Gallery, a cooperative owned and operated by local artists since 1971.

The gallery will feature work by Carriage House artists from March 10 until April 4, with
a fundraiser and an artist meet-and-greet on March 12.

The pieces will be available for $20 to $50 each throughout the gallery showing.

Proceeds from the sale will be split between the Carriage House, to help fund ongoing operations,
and the artists as a source of income.

Lisa McDonough, a spokeswoman for the co-op, said this will be the second year the gallery has partnered with the Carriage House. Last year’s exhibition drew more than 250 people, she said.

It’s anticipated that the show will grow in popularity this year.

“I’ve seen how art helps us through time of trouble,” McDonough said.

She said art that’s created by the homeless, perhaps more than any other community of artists,
“you can tell it’s from the heart.”

Kris, a 47-year-old Boulder woman who asked not to use her last name, said her work at the Carriage House truly is a reflection of what’s in her heart.

A brain injury left her unable to work, and she’s living in transitional housing in Boulder.

The artwork, she said, is the best escape from her woes.

“You forget about your troubles,” she said. “It’s healthy self-expression of your feelings.”

Smearing her fingers across a pastel drawing of a mountain landscape, Kris chuckled.

“Obviously, I’m feeling good.”

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It appears this columnist is saying that it is teachers’ and the media’s fault that our teens are more depressed.

I do not know this teenager and do not point to her being a culprit with any of these observations.

You do not need your teacher to be your buddy; you need a teacher to teach. And for the “million and one other activities” — stop it. We all cannot be great at everything. Keeping a kid on the third string and frustrated
so as not to hurt his self-esteem is nonsense.

You want the media to report more positive events. Super! As the great consumer, you have a lot of influence,
and the marketing gurus want to sell to your generation. So if you want more positive images, show them.
And finally, teens have the most influence over other teens. Bring your own optimism to the ones around you. God, family and friends — in that order.

Writer with rare skin disease to release Christian self-esteem book,

“Naked & Not Ashamed: A Journey to God’s Mirror”

Author Crystal St. Marie Lewis lives with a rare disease that causes rough, and often alligator-like skin.
After years of depression, Lewis found hope and self-love in her Christian Faith. In her book, she explores
Biblical self-esteem.

February 20, 2010 - (Columbus, Ohio, February 17, 2010) On March 1, 2010, freelance writer Crystal St. Marie Lewis will release a new book called Naked & Not Ashamed: A Journey to God’s Mirror.
Ms.Lewis lives with a rare, incurable disease of the skin called ichthyosis bullosa of siemens, which dramatically alters her outer appearance. The book details how, with the help of God’s Word, she
overcame the severe depression and dangerously low self-esteem associated with her disease.

According to the Foundation for Ichthyosis Related SkinTypes (FIRST), icthyosis affects one
third of one percent of Americans.

The disease can take many forms, but most who have the disorder have fish-like scales,
thick folds of discolored, over-grown skin, and extreme problems with dryness.

Naked & Not Ashamed: A Journey to God’s Mirror discusses how Ms. Lewis reconciles her appearance with the Bible’s claim that she is made in the image of God. She guides her readers on a “journey to God’s mirror,”
for a dose of Bible-based reality about how valuable every person is, regardless of how they might look on the outside.

Ms. Lewis has dedicated her life to empowering women.

“My story is every woman’s story,” she often says with a passionate smile.
“Some of us wear our scars on the outside, some of us wear them on the inside…
but we must all overcome our trials and grasp God’s purpose for us in this life.”

Naked & Not Ashamed: A Journey to God’s Mirror will be available in paperback on March 1, 2010.
Ms. Lewis is offering a limited number of free promotional copies of her book and interviews to members of the media and bloggers. The book will be available for purchase on Amazon.com, through the book’s website, and via special
order at major bookstores all over the country. Ms. Lewis is available to speak to women’s groups, Christian audiences, college students, and teens.

For more information about the book, visit www.nakednotashamed.com.

Dear Dr Cath,

My boyfriend of four years went off with another woman at Christmas. I was devastated but I’m trying to move on.
This is made difficult because he lives around the corner and I keep on bumping into him and his new girlfriend.

Dear reader, BREAKING up is hard and moving on is even harder.

You were together for a long time and it’s going to take several months to get over it so don’t push yourself
too hard. Keep feeling positive about life and one day enough time will have passed that you will be able
to pass him in the street and not even notice.

Distract yourself by doing things to boost your selfesteem.

Get fit, take up a new hobby or have a makeover. Doing something positive will help to fill the hole
in your life left by your painful break-up.

Children as young as eight should be taught about self esteem to help stop them developing eating disorders,
a charity said yesterday.

Youngsters need to learn how to deal with images of the “perfect body” in the media, said Beat.

It also wants an audit of those diagnosed with an eating disorder and says GPs should
receive updates on research and treatment.

The charity said: “Success is not about how we look but what we do.”

February is National Boost Self-Esteem Month. High self-esteem is sometimes compared to
an umbrella that shelters a child from harmful choices and unhealthy risks.
There is an old image, maybe from an ancient Mother Earth News, of a child under an umbrella marked
“Self-Esteem,” and it shielding her from drugs, alcohol, violence, promiscuity, suicide
and addiction.

All of those scary labels are coming down from the sky like rain. Yikes! Comparing self-esteem to a
trampoline feels better. Self-esteem as a trampoline gives a child the bounce to stretch herself in the world,
to take healthy chances, and to rebound when things don’t go as she had hoped.

The trampoline metaphor has a much more empowering energy. Y ou can reach for the sky rather than
protect yourself from things falling from it. You can jump!

We parents can benefit from a few jumps on that trampoline from time to time.

In our efforts to effectively discipline to build our child’s self-esteem, we sometimes forget
about our own. When you really think about it, fostering respect and appreciation
in our relationships – especially those with our children – begins with fostering respect and
appreciation in our relationship with our self.

For parents who wish to discipline for high self-esteem: Listen more and monitor your tone of voice
when speaking with your children.

Trampoline for Parental Self-Esteem: Listen more to you – your body, emotions and inner dialogue –
and check out the tone of voice you use in your inner dialogue. Is your body relaxed or stressed?

Are you composed or upset? Is your self-talk encouraging or discouraging? Does your inner tone of voice sound respectful and appreciative or sarcastic and diminishing? You are the only one who can listen to your body,
emotions and inner dialogue. There is no one else who can. It is your gift. Begin by spending five minutes each morning and evening listening to you. You deserve to be heard! After listening, care for yourself.

Care for your body. Care for yourself emotionally. Become self-encouraging so that your self-talk is full of kind, caring words.

For parents who wish to discipline for high self-esteem: Give your children choices.

Trampoline for Parental Self-Esteem: Give yourself choices so that you do things because you “get to” rather than because you “have to”. You get to cook dinner or you get to say that you don’t want to cook dinner. You get to take your child to piano practice or you get to request that someone else take your child to
practice because there is something you would like to do. Exercise your choices. Ask for what you want.

F. Scott Fitzgerald said, “The world only exists in your eyes – your conception of it. You can make it as big
or as small as you want to.” The view from the trampoline is a big wide open sky. Come on and jump!

Shame, stress and depression often spur further weight gain
By Jeanna Bryner

The ballooning waistlines of children hit the spotlight when Michelle Obama admitted publicly her
daughters had an unhealthy body mass index. And while many urge kids to slim down to avoid heart disease
and other physical ailments, the emotional consequences from teasing and low self-esteem could be just as debilitating, scientists say.

About 37 percent of children in the United States are overweight and roughly 16 percent of children ages
2 to 19 are obese, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Among 6- to 19-year-olds, obesity has tripled over the past two decades, according to the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey.

We’ve heard that these fat children may be set up for a life at the doctor’s office with health
risks including type-2 diabetes, high cholesterol and blood pressure, and sleeping problems.

But these same kids are more likely to have a hard time with emotions and with their peers.

“Overweight kids are more likely to have depression and low self-esteem, to be teased or bullied,
and to bully other children,” said Catherine Davis, associate professor of pediatrics at the Medical College of Georgia. “These can be serious problems for these children.”

Researchers point out that no matter your age, carrying around lots of extra weight has its
psychological consequences.

“Overweight and obesity are terribly stigmatizing conditions, regardless of age,”
said Sara Gable of the University of Missouri, Columbia.

“Living as a member of a stigmatized group is stressful and can produce feelings of anxiety, depression, and loneliness.”

Gable said research on other stigmatized groups, such as racial minorities, shows these negative feelings
can interfere with academic performance and other aspects of a person’s life, and “there is good reason to think” these findings would apply to children struggling with weight problems, Gable told LiveScience.

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While some responded to the First Lady’s divulging of her kids’ weight problems as insensitive,
psychologists say pretending the issue isn’t there doesn’t help anyone involved.

And they offer tips for how parents can be sensitive to their child’s feelings while encouraging
healthy behaviors.

Toughest spot: the playground
Playground teasing may seem like a childhood rite of passage, but overweight children get more of it.

And that name-calling can grate on a child’s self-esteem.

“A lot of who we are is based on how others interact with us,” said Eric Storch of the Departments of Pediatrics and Psychiatry at the University of South Florida.

“With kids who are overweight they internalize others’ feedback, ‘You’re fat, you’re no good, no one wants
to go out with you.’ That contributes to anxiety and depression.”

He estimates rates of depression are as high as 20 percent in kids who are overweight.

“It’s not simply being overweight that leads to depression,” Storch said in a telephone interview. “It’s being overweight and getting a bunch of crap about it from peers that leads to anxiety or depression.”

While one paradigm suggests weight leads to teasing, which then leads to psychological issues,
another reverses those arrows to suggest depressed kids are less likely to exercise and more likely to gain weight.

Tips for overweight children
Gable and her colleagues put together some tips to help children navigate a world they say is

“critical of body size.” Among them:

1)Create an environment where children learn to feel good about themselves. For instance,
you could introduce children to different hobbies, sports and neighborhood activities.

And encourage them to pursue what they enjoy. And help children recognize that taking care of their bodies
allows them to do what they like to do.

2)Help children learn how to deal with teasing and bullying. You could role play (and talk about) ways to avoid reacting to unkind words and actions, and how to calmly walk away from these peer provocations.

Also, help children to develop positive “I messages,” such as “I’m going to ignore these words because
I know they are not true.”

3)Set and maintain limits on the amount of time children spend watching TV and playing computer games.
Make sure to turn off the TV during meals and when no one is watching it. Bottom line: make television a special activity, not a routine one.

4)Help children to like healthy foods. Involve them in menu planning and have them munch on fruits and
veggies between meals rather than fatty, sugary and salty snacks.

The researchers also suggest you keep track of the visual media that children see. Limit the number of fashion, glamour and muscle-building magazines that come into your home.

Source: Live Science

In fact, Storch and his colleagues studied 100 overweight children and those at risk for being overweight,
ages 8 to 18, to find out the effects of bullying. About a quarter of the children reported significant problems with bullies during the prior two weeks. The study, published in a 2007 issue of the Journal of Pediatric Psychology, revealed bullying often caused kids to avoid situations where they had been picked on, such as gym class and sports fields.

Storch’s team also found bullied kids were more likely to be depressed, lonely and anxious.

“When you think about it, it makes intuitive sense, when you consider the hallmark signs of depression –
sadness, fatigue, lack of interest in things you used to like,” Storch said in a statement about the study.

“When kids are having a tough time with peers, and struggling with depression, then this can translate to reduced rates of physical activity.”

Problems start early

Though steering clear of physical activity may, in part, lead to a heavy child, it doesn’t explain the weight
gain in very young kids. Before the age of 2 and as early as three months old, infants could be on the path toward obesity , according to a new study published this month in the journal Clinical Pediatrics.

And just as the extra weight comes early in life, so do the social and psychological consequences.

A nationally representative study of about 8,000 children who were followed from kindergarten through third grade, beginning in 1998, showed the psychological ramifications of being plus-sized start young. For instance, by third grade overweight kids reported less favorable peer relations and feeling unpopular.

The study, published last year in the journal Applied Developmental Science, also showed overweight girls
were also more likely to act out – fighting and arguing – than slim peers, according to their teachers.

Kids with weight problems from the start (in kindergarten) were more likely to be sad, lonely and
to worry than kindergarteners without extra poundage, according to reports by their teachers and the kids themselves.

As overweight kids entered higher grades, these feelings just got worse.

The fact that overweight boys and girls reported more loneliness and worrying suggests that,
as early as first grade, they may have an understanding of the stereotypes that accompany living with the stigma,
the researchers say.

What’s a parent to do?

For parents wanting to help their children slim down while also keeping self-confidence intact, t
he key is balance, researchers say. A mom who’s constantly nagging Billy about his weight is not going to see a positive outcome, Storch said. But neither will a laissez-fare parent who lets a kid eat with abandon.

Parents should let children know they are concerned about their health, not kids’ looks, Davis said.

“Pretending the child is not overweight or obese sends a harmful message that they should ignore their health,”
Davis said.

“Rather than being punitive or setting dietary rules that only the child has to follow, have the
whole family improve their diet and physical activity habits together.”

And when overweight or obese children get out and exercise, the results can be a boost to their self-esteem, in addition to any physical gains.

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A study published last year in the Journal of Pediatric Psychology suggested 40 minutes a day of exercise lessened depression in overweight kids and made them feel better about themselves.

The study, conducted by Davis and her colleagues, included more than 200 overweight children who either
continued their sedentary lifestyle, or engaged in 20 minutes or 40 minutes of fun activities that
increased heart rate, such as running games, jumping rope, basketball and soccer.

“Just by getting up and doing something aerobic, they were changing how they felt about themselves,”
said the lead researcher and Davis’ colleague at MCG Karen Petty. “Hopefully these children are taking home the idea: Hey, when we do this stuff, we feel better.”

Overall, the emotional consequences are just as bad as the physical ones.

“Comparing the emotional consequences of pediatric obesity to the health related consequences is sort
of like missing the forest for the trees,” Gable said. “Obesity has the potential to interfere
with all areas of human functioning; that’s part of what makes its treatment during childhood such a tricky undertaking. Children suddenly get lots of attention for the exact reason that makes – at least some of them
– feel really bad.”

Marriage isn’t all fun and games. In the past I’ve posted about marriage making you poorer,
killing sex drive, and making you fat. So if you’re gonna do it, do it right. But how do you know who to marry?

Should you just trust your feelings or pick the person who “looks good on paper”?

Luckily, science has answers for us:

1) Find someone who you idealize and who idealizes you.

(I’ve posted about the benefits delusion has on love before.) If you’re already cynical about the person by the time you hit the altar, you’re in trouble:

This study examined the long-term consequences of idealization in marriage, using both daily diary
and questionnaire data collected from a sample of 168 newlywed couples who participated in a 4-wave, 13-year longitudinal study of marriage.

Idealization was operationalized as the tendency for people to perceive their partner as more
agreeable than would be expected based on their reports of their partner’s agreeable and disagreeable behaviors.

Spouses who idealized one another were more in love with each other as newlyweds.

Longitudinal analyses suggested that spouses were less likely to suffer declines in love when they idealized one another as newlyweds. Newlywed levels of idealization did not predict divorce.

Source: “Positive Illusions in Marital Relationships: A 13-Year Longitudinal Study” from Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

2) Marry somebody with high self-esteem. Ladies, you’re probably already attracted to this. Guys, watch out for
women who don’t feel good about themselves:

A model of the commitment-insurance system is proposed to examine how low and
high self-esteem people cope with the costs interdependence imposes on autonomous goal pursuits.

In this system, autonomy costs automatically activate compensatory cognitive processes that
attach greater value to the partner. Greater partner valuing compels greater responsiveness to the
partnerneeds.

Two experiments and a daily diary study of newlyweds supported the model.

Autonomy costs automatically activate more positive implicit evaluations of the partner.
On explicit measures of positive illusions, high self-esteem people continue to compensate for costs.

However, cost-primed low self-esteem people correct and override their positive implicit sentiments
when they have the opportunity to do so. Such corrections put the marriages of low self-esteem people at risk:

Failing to compensate for costs predicted declines in satisfaction over a 1-year period.

(PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2009 APA, all rights reserved)

Source: “Commitment insurance: Compensating for the autonomy costs of interdependence in close relationships.” from Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

3) Ladies, want a husband who is actively involved with his kids’ lives? Find a guy with higher socioeconomic status. Plus it’ll make your kids smarter. (Money never hurts, does it?):

Previous studies in developed-world populations have found that fathers become more involved with their sons
than with their daughters and become more involved with their children if they are of high socioeconomic status
(SES) than if they are of low SES. This paper addresses the idea proposed by Kaplan et al. that this pattern arises because high-SES fathers and fathers of sons can make more difference to offspring outcomes.

Using a large longitudinal British dataset, I show that paternal involvement in childhood has positive
associations with offspring IQ at age 11, and offspring social mobility by age 42, though not with numbers of grandchildren. For IQ, there is an interaction between father’s SES and his level of involvement, with high-SES fathers making more difference to the child’s IQ by their investment than low-SES fathers do.

The effects of paternal investment on the IQ and social mobility of sons and daughters were the same. Results are discussed with regard to the evolved psychology and social patterning of paternal behaviour in humans.

Source: “Why do some dads get more involved than others? Evidence from a large British cohort” from Evolution & Human Behavior”

Finding a rich guy may even give you more orgasms:

There has been considerable speculation about the adaptive significance of the human female orgasm, with one hypothesis being that it promotes differential affiliation or conception with high-quality males.

We investigated the relationship between women’s self-reported orgasm frequency and the characteristics of their partners in a large representative sample from the Chinese Health and Family Life Survey.

We found that women report more frequent orgasms the higher their partner’s income is.

This result cannot be explained by possible confounds such as women’s age, health, happiness,
educational attainment, relationship duration, wealth difference between the partners,
difference between the partners in educational attainment, and regional location.

It appears consistent with the view that female orgasm has an evolved adaptive function.

Source: “Partner wealth predicts self-reported orgasm frequency in a sample of Chinese women” from Evolution & Human Behavior

3) Guys, you want to avoid that whole “involuntarily celibate” situation that men fear after years of marriage?
Don’t marry a woman who is sexually submissive:

Women are bombarded with images of women’s sexual submission and subservience to male partners.

The authors argue that women internalize this submissive role, namely, they associate sex implicitly with submission. The authors propose that this association leads to submissive sexual behavior, thereby reducing sexual autonomy
and arousal.

Study 1 found that women implicitly associated sex with submission. Study 2 showed that women’s implicit association of sex with submission predicted greater personal adoption of a submissive sexual role.

Study 3 found that men did not implicitly associate sex with submission.

Study 4 demonstrated that women’s adoption of a submissive sexual role predicted lower reported
arousal and greater reported difficulty becoming sexually aroused; sexual autonomy mediated these effects.

Source: “Sexual Submissiveness in Women: Costs for Sexual Autonomy and Arousal” from Personality and
Social Psychology Bulletin

4) Find someone who is conscientious and even a bit neurotic if you want a long and healthy life together:

The present study tested the effect of conscientiousness and neuroticism on health and physical limitations in a representative sample of older couples (N= 2,203) drawn from the Health and Retirement Study. As in past research, conscientiousness predicted better health and physical functioning, whereas neuroticism predicted worse health and physical functioning.

Unique to this study was the finding that conscientiousness demonstrated a compensatory effect,
such that husbands’ conscientiousness predicted wives’ health outcomes above and beyond wives’
own personality. The same pattern held true for wives’ conscientiousness as a predictor of husbands’
health outcomes.

Furthermore, conscientiousness and neuroticism acted synergistically, such that people who scored high
for both traits were healthier than others. Finally, we found that the combination of high conscientiousness
and high neuroticism was also compensatory, such that the wives of men with this combination of personality traits reported better health than other women.

Source: “Compensatory Conscientiousness and Health in Older Couples” from Psychological Science

5) Don’t want to get cheated on? Here is where you should trust your instincts. Research shows cheaters may actually look different from non-cheaters:

Cosmides and Tooby argue that humans possess a domain-specific cheater detection module, which allows them to
keep track of who has honored and who has violated social contracts. Consistent with this logic,
others demonstrate that humans better recognize faces of known cheaters than those of known cooperators.

We show, in Experiments 1%u20133, that humans better recognize faces of cheaters than those of cooperators
when they do not know who are cheaters and cooperators. Experiment 4 demonstrates, however, that humans think they recognize cheaters’ faces even when they have not seen them before.

The results of these experiments suggest that cheaters might look different from cooperators,
possibly due to beliefs and personality traits that make them less ideal exchange partners,
and the human mind might be capable of picking up on subtle visual cues that cheaters’ faces give off.

Thom Yorke Gives Peter Gabriel’s Self-Esteem a Hit…
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NME:

“I still haven’t had a response from Thom Yorke,” he explained of the situation,
before adding that he does still want the Radiohead frontman to be involved.

He revealed: “He originally wrote to say he wanted to do a version of ‘Wallflower’,
but I haven’t heard what he thinks of my version of [‘Street Spirit’].”

Gabriel conceded that Yorke may not have been impressed with his version of the track.

“Not everyone likes it and I’ve no real idea whether he likes it or hates it. We have a little clue,
though,” he said.

“We gave out codes for the artists to listen to their songs on a stream and we could see how many times
they’ve heard them. I think he’s only streamed ‘Street Spirit’ once, which isn’t a good sign, but who knows?”