Life is full of surprises and there are so many challenges,
in life that can shake the confidence of even the most confident people.
Have seen confident,successful people turn into an introvert due to circumstances.
Why? Alot of it has to do with the meaning they attach to the events,
or circumstances that surrounds them.
Majority of people walk around believing life owe’s them something.
If you adopt that type of mindset, whenever you experience a set back,
you will automatically get puffed up and angry since you’ve believed that shouldn’t have happened,
because life owes you.
The fact of the matter is this. Life does not owe you and me anything.
In fact, we should be grateful that we are still alive, breathing and able to live ourlives
To prevent yourself from developing a low self esteem, you have to change your mindset.
When life knocks you down, don’t take it personally, just accept what has happened, look for the lesson and move on.
No one has control over life so you must not waste valuable time and energy worrying about life.
The second thing you must do is to develop a habit of appreciating yourself
regardless of your flaws because we all have flaws including the most successful, famous, or powerful people.
You must choose not to define yourself by what other people think of you, your possession, job, or status.
When you define yourself by the job you have, if you loose that job your self esteem will fly out the window
If you define yourself by your status, if you loose it, your self esteem will evaporate befor your eyes.
I’m sure you can now see the importance of not defining yourself by the list above
We’ve all heard of celebrities who made it big, but fell into depression when they lost the fame and status
To prevent yourself from slipping into a low self esteem, always define yourself from within. For example ask yourself who am i?
What do i believe?
What do i stand for?
What makes me happy?
What are my values?
“What makes or breaks a man, is not what other’s think of him, but what he really thinks about himself”
I was able to achieve all my goals today,
by being organised.
Whilst i was finishing off my last to do list, i remembered thinking of all the obstacles have had to overcome to get to where am at today.
I also thought about some obstacles i would still have to overcome, to get to where am heading to.
The more i think about how far have come, the more am reminded of the importance of going the extra mile.
The majority of people i know do not lack talent or potential, they are either not willing, or not aware of the importance of going the extra mile.
What do i mean by going the extra mile?
Well, going the extra mile means strecthing yourself beyond your comfort zone.
It means working till 7pm even though your office hours are from 9-5pm.
Going the extra mile is the willingness to do that little bit extra to achieve your goals.
I remember when i was selling insurance door to door. My working hours where between 9-5pm.
Each day i had a target of achieving 6 sales, despite knowing the target set by my employer was 4 sales.
I was willing to push myself and go the extra mile because i had a motivation, a reason to do so.
My why, which is very important when trying to achieve anything in life, was my compass, my guide.
What was my why?
I wanted so badly to be the best sales man within my company
I wanted to be promoted to a managerial position
I wanted recognition for my hard work and dedication
I wanted to make so much money etc.
Those where my why’s.
The list above pushed me forward when i felt like giving up,
they encouraged me to work later than normal office hours,
they gave me a mission statement, a purpose, and they created in me, a determination to succeeed.
By the time i finally achieved my goal, i felt incredible.
Achieving that goal convinced me of one thing.
(Success is within my reach).
Achieving that goal made me realise as long as am, willing to focus, work hard, and go the extra mile, i will always end up a success no matter what.
So whatever your goal is in life, the first thing you must do once you’ve identified your goal is to create a whole list of why’s.
Why you want to, or need to achieve your goals.
Without a strong why, you will get discouraged and give up when those obstacles or fear knock at your door.
Have prepared a short video for you, which features someone who has managed to achieve great success.
This gentleman is well known, loved, and admired by many.
In this short clip, he shares his secret to success
In this interview he stresses the importance of having a great work ethic.
Do post your comments on the blog page.
I look forward to reading your comments.
Enjoy
P.S When you set to achieve something always remember,
“Nothing is impossible, until proven impossible” Seyi Eyitayo
The world is full of bitter people who constantly put themselves
down due to the obstacles and set backs of life.
I know it’s hard, i know life can make us feel overwhelmed, but i also do know that
we can become overcomer’s in life if we choose to.
Take a moment to appreciate how far you’ve come,
what you have achieved regardless of how big or small it might be.
There are many things, gifts, and people in your life that you have to be grateful for.
The love of a family, the love of a spouse, the very fact that you are alive and well.
There are people out there who will give anything to have just 1% of what you and i both have in ourlives.
Take a moment, give yourself a pat on the back and espress your gratitude by being a gift to someone else
“May the road rise to meet you. May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm on your face, may the rains fall soft upon your fields, and,
until we meet again…. may God hold you softly in the palm of his hand”- Old irish blessing
“When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
when the road you are trudging seems all uphill,
when the funds are low and the debts are high,
and you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
rest if you must, but don’t you quit
Life is queer with it’s twist and turns,
as every one of us sometimes learns.
And many a fellow turns about when he might have won,
had they stuck it out.
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,
you may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out.
The silver tint of the clouds of doubts,
and you never can tell how close you are,
it may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit,
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit”
Whenever i get interviewed, am always asked the question:
What is self belief and how does it work?
I usually reply by saying,
Self belief is total confidence in one’s ability, capabilities and potential.
Self belief can also be described as an Ego-booster which encourages
a person to trust in his or her own potential.
Self belief lives in the mind, and it works in conjuction with our subconcious mind,
hence the reason why i teach my clients the importance of learning to control their thought process.
The world is full of people who suffer from a low self esteem due to various adverse situations
such as;
Physical and mental abuse,
Dissapointment,
Loss of a job
Feeling over weight etc
I personally don’t believe, some people are born with a low self esteem.
In fact i believe it is created by the way we react to adversity or life challenges.
So if humans are not born with a low self esteem, then it means it’s something that can be cured.
TIP 1:
Whenever you feel like your self esteem is runing low, stop and ask your self the following questions.
1, Why am i feeling this way? Will Help you to identify the cause
2, What is making me feel this way? Will help you identify Who, or what is responsible.
These questions are designed to help you shift your focus from just feeling down, to focusing on finding the cause and a solution.
“Whatever we focus on expands”
Tip 2:
Ask yourself the following question:
Are my feelings based on facts or opinion?
So for example, let’s just assume you feeling very low because you’ve just lost your job.
Some of the thoughts that will cross your mind will be negative thoughts such as;
You not good enough, that’s why they got rid of you
You won’t be able to find another job for a while etc
Now if you allow yourself to focus of these negative thoughts, you will realise your fears.
“We become what we think about”
The important thing to do here is to ask yourself, are my feelings based on facts or is it just an opinion?
Facts:
The law of gravity states, what goes up will surely come down.
Opinion:
Opinions are simply a point of view, and they are not based on facts.
So whenever you hear those negative voices telling you, you not good enough. Simply respond by saying, thanks for sharing and then ask yourself,
“Are my feelings based on facts, or is it just an opinion”
To find out more about how self belief works, and how it can help you,
Here is a clip from my interview on sky channel 200.
